#SlipperySockChronicles Dating Apps 101: Listen, Listen, Listen it’s hard out here to meet the right one. I’ve been on the online relationship circuit for many years. I started out with AOL messenger, then Yahoo Groups. Slowly as technology progressed I transitioned to MySpace, Black Planet and Migente (judge your mother! 😫) Fast forward to the new age and I tried out #BlackPeopleMeet, #EHarmony, #PlentyofFish, #Match, #Tinder, #Bumble, #CoffeeMeetsBagel, #TheLeague, #FaceBook and #OKCupid.
Now I know you’re thinking: Why aren’t you married yet? 🤣🤣🤣 Don’t be so hasty I met my ex-husband live and in person right outside a club called “Dinosaurs” in Laurel, Maryland. He was such a gentleman. He was the designated driver and was waiting to pick up his friend the night we met. I’ve had a few marriage proposals. Nothing like a man mailing a diamond ring from Iraq professing his love while he’s fighting a war. I met him in Hawaii through a mutual friend. It’s okay to switch it up and meet who you want to date using multiple avenues.
I’ve had great success online dating. I’m never without a date (when I choose to date). You have to be selective. No, don’t respond to every message if you don’t want to engage. Here’s my philosophy: You miss 100% of the opportunities you don’t take. Try it. Take a chance on love. Keep an open mind and an open heart. What’s the worst that could happen? Why not reflect on the best possibilities? You could meet the love of your life. Do something different. ❤️❤️❤️
Dating 101: Where do you find hot dates? I’ve been blessed to have a healthy and active dating life. I’ve even once contributed to an Essence Magazine article on “Where to find Good Men!” 🔥 🔥🔥
What I’ve found that WORKS is being open to new and fun possibilities. Where do you meet quality dates? The truth is ANYWHERE!!!
Social Media: I’ve met men online via social media (Facebook/Black Planet/Mingle City/Message Boards). This opens up the possibility to TRAVEL and meet men and women outside of your immediate area. As an Air Force Veteran I continuously moved to new areas. Social Media sites really helped me not only meet new men but helped me to build lifelong friendships.
Dating Sites: Online dating sites (Black People Meet/Tinder/POF/Match.com) are great pathways to engaging and meeting new prospects. Try changing your profile when you prepare for travel and meet local men and women no matter where you are around the globe. The beauty of the internet is that you are not limited to your geographical region. You can date and connect with potential lovers throughout the world. Your possibilities are limitless.
Non-profit/Civic Associations: If you value SERVICE you can meet high-quality and civically engaged partners while SERVING!
• Political organizations (Young Democrats/Local Political Clubs)
• Non-profit Orgs (United Way/Greater Washington Urban League Young Professionals Network/National Society of Black Engineers/National Association of Black Journalists)
• Volunteering (Career Days at Local Schools/Partners in Education/Mentoring, Serving Food to the Homeless and Habitat for Humanity.)
Church/Religious Organizations: If you desire a partner that serves God or a higher power it may be beneficial to focus your energy on going to church or religious events. Singles Ministries and Bible Study or other activities open the pathway to serve God but also connect with someone who holds the same beliefs.
On the Job: Work is the least likely place that I would look for a partner but it’s inevitable. You can peacefully date a coworker or someone that works at your job but use discretion. Impromptu lunch dates or coffee breaks can be fun!
Everyday Life: Keep your ears and eyes open as you go through life. Your husband or wife may be at the grocery story. I hear Wegman’s is a great place to explore. You might encounter your love at a Happy Hour or while out on the town to see a play. The key is “Be ready and keep your heart and mind open.”
Simply Ebony ❤❤️❤